Climbing or Jumping?
“What produced more fear? Jumping out of a plane or climbing?" I asked the guys during STG 001’s Air excursion, already knowing the answer.
“Climbing,” they all replied.
“What?” I asked, surprised. “How is that?”
I guess I didn’t already know the answer.
They went on to explain that because they were attached to their parachuting instructor, they were able to just kind of let go of their own future. “I was in his hands, so I just went along for the ride,” they all said in one form or another.
Now this is one of the reasons excursions like these are critical for any man trying to live an exceptional kind of life. They open us up to many of the blind spots we are living life with.
Strapping Yourself to Another Dude?
I asked them to consider where else in their life had they just strapped themselves to some other dude, forfeited their responsibility, and ultimately, allowed that person to dictate their current and / or future situation.
I could see their faces go a bit sheepish when I said this.
Being that the guys in this group were both successful and powerful, they're quick to accept blind or weak spots when applicable, own them, and want to get straight to work on them. If you're reading this I'll assume the same, so let's go beyond the jump.
He Looks Okay... I'll Just Do That!
I know many men who have gotten pinched in life, fell into the struggle zone. Their relationships with their spouses, children and friends took heavies. As a result they stopped trusting themselves and just started blindly following other dudes around them.
More than once I've sat down with guys like this, did the math, and proved that something will not financially, spiritually, or personally work for them, only to watch them skip onto someone else's path anyways. A dangerous move in a culture where most men front and pose as if they have it all together.
What I learned from those experiences is that they were not doing what they actually thought was going to work, they were choosing the path of least resistance. Which looks like doing what others around us are doing. On top of taking the road most traveled, they were also dumping all of the weight of being responsible for the outcome of their future.
There's a big difference between accessing an expert, getting help, guidance, coaching, and just strapping yourself to someone else's path and letting go.
Habit of A Hero:
Really examine the path you're on or the one you're considering taking. I'm talking measure 10 times cut once kind of a thing. If you're over forty you don't have much more time to get this right.
How will your path really affect your ability to earn a living, care for your mental and physical health, produce enough income to live a life without unacceptable compromise today, and when the time comes when you can no longer work?
God didn't put you on this planet to be part of the herd. You're here to find your own way. The one he has waiting for you.
If you haven't already, go read the ebook “Habits of Heroes”