As I write this, I sit by the sea in my favorite dive bar, preparing for our sea excursion. A thick marine layer sits next to me using the sun-rays to signal its intended departure for the day. The salt air has been seasoned with just the right amount of diesel exhaust to pull in other men of the sea from distant places to reset and find adventure.Read More
The world has become too dynamic and competitive, and now requires levels of patience, courage and confidence beyond what a single man can hold on his own.
Alone we're weak and unable to fully realize our roles as leaders, fathers or providers with dignity. As we become pressed, we default into working (at work and in life) nonstop in an effort to keep up.
You’ll get your ass blown out of the water if you don't exist within a brotherhood.Read More
You still changing your oil?
These “DIY” (do it yourself) skill sets that men think make them men—changing the car oil, edging the lawn, buffing the cars—are actually chewing them up.
It’s no wonder so many of these guys are too busy, are not making enough money, are out of shape, and have relationships in the crapper.Read More
What I lost when I left the SEAL Teams - Why we need to hear about the depravity of others - What I became desperate to hear again - Why really high performers are so authentic - This ain't a safe place.Read More
Navy Seal Training seems like an extreme technique when dealing with children. How do you tailor it from the needs of these military specialists to the needs and abilities of children? What is Lead from the Front?
See some questions I have answered...Read More
Many people make up reasons for giving up on their dreams. In this video I talk about how I used my kids as an excuse to QUIT SEAL training my first time there.
Parent or not, this video will have you rethink your commitment to your dreams.
** Warning ** This video may cause you to take action.Read More
Tying my daughters’ hands and feet together may not make them trailblazers that upend the world as they know it, but it’s just one of the ways I can help them learn to tackle real-life problem solving and critical thinking—skills that any child needs to survive, or adult for that matter, no matter what life may...Read More
There’s something about being the one to find the anchor points, tie the knots, rig your child’s climbing harness and set up the rappelling equipment. It puts you in a place of instant authority, control, and most of all trust.
This is the original paper that launched my book "Raising Men".Read More
There are many similar mantras that get slung by the Boy Scouts: "Be Prepared" or the tactical type, "Always Be Ready." Both of these terms imply a state of readiness in preparation for an emergency, attack, or survival situation, but neither address the disaster that most of us are already right in the middle of. The disaster of an unadventurous life. To understand my point, as well as this philosophy, you'll first need to ask yourself the question "Who do you want to be ready to be?"
Don't worry... now's not the time for us to...Read More
A bulk of our time on this planet has been spent running down prey in dangerous situations to survive, and over multiple generations, we’ve evolved to those standards. Is it any wonder that when we don’t get out and “Get after it.” we feel emotionally broke, depressed, and down right pissed off?
With the advent of technology, our world evolved much quicker than our brains and bodies could. Today, many of us struggle to live with a hunter / warrior heart in a...Read More
We all become whatever we become for what ever reason we become it. For me, I wanted to be a Medic because I would always be able to care for my family in an emergency. From there I went on to become a Navy SEAL so that I could defend, protect and care for my family. I always related everything back to what it would mean to my family.
Then the training begins. Then you get deployed and your purpose grows proportionately with your power. Sacrifice and the greater good push you to get better and better. Your original intent – Be a badass for my family is fulfilled by way of byproduct created by your profession. It all works until you leave. Then the countless hours of training don’t seem to have the importance anymore.Read More
I'm not one of those guys who cares about my heart-rate, speed or distance when I run, but I do buy gear that tells me all of that stuff. Why do I do this? Because it keeps things interesting, fresh and exciting. Do I need a new paddle board? No. So why did I pick a new one up yesterday? Because I wanted to paddle board more. Life is...Read More
In my endeavor to reconcile the pragmatic application of human performance and the primal requirement for the outdoors I’ve discovered the essential as well as the unconventional: the packable and transportable workplace.
In today’s economy we compete with our ability to discover and create. To accomplish this we rely on a very scarce, fragile, and internal resource commonly referred to as attention. There are two types of attention to consider here. The first type is called...Read More
You see, we often don't do what we know we're supposed to do, because we lack the strength and desire to do so. However, the focus on and the timely reinforcement of these tenets: courage, respect, responsibility, communication, honor, perseverance, and innovation helps to set the groundwork for that strength and desire. It encourages effective behaviors and works to create an environment where people begin to make the right choices -- the kind of choices that lead to success.Read More
Women, if they’re driven and strong enough mentally and physically, can do this job. Same goes for men. We can’t lower our standards for political correctness or for potentially new sexual dynamics.
As war becomes less conventional and more dependent upon the more subtle skills of intelligence, surveillance, and surgical strikes, women will fill that space as would any other SEAL—with strength, with honor, and with grace. That is, if they don’t...
We've been slowly getting our SEAL Pup program off the ground. A new approach to teaching leadership and confidence, while developing the practical skills of survival. Survival in the marketplace as well as in or on the Sea - Air - Land (SEAL.) Confidence comes from learning to do things you could not do before. High levels of confidence, (swagger,) comes from learning to...
Many of us spend a bulk of our time on this planet stranded atop the plateaus of life. Despite our busy schedules and exhaustive efforts to accomplish something beyond the ordinary, we make very little progress.
It’s common to chalk this all up to a...Read More
Going to BUD/S wasn’t my first experience in Special Operations training, and I had already learned to spot the posers and those who’d soon quit, and this guy was one of them. I knew I needed to separate myself from him.
We all form and maintain relationships in our lives for a variety of reasons—they make us feel comfortable, complacent, competitive, strong. For Navy SEALs, at the top of the list is the desire to grow and excel. That’s why elite units and high performers tend to stick together. And that’s why the answer to that age-old mom question “If your friends jumped off a cliff, would you?” is...Read More